When Your Baby Goes Back to School

Objects in the mirror may be closer than they appear. Perspective. It’s a lesson learned on day 1 of driving school, when your baby goes back to school.

Happy woman and child in car

It’s the awe in a preschooler’s voice, as they ask why the sun follows along everywhere they go.

It’s the amazement in a parent’s eyes as they wonder how their oldest seems so very big now that they are next to a newborn.  The same older child who looked so small mere weeks ago, now looks like a little giant next to his newborn brother or sister.

It’s the maddening conundrum behind why it feels your child can’t possibly be as old as she is – she can’t possibly be ready for kindergarten or the 2nd, the 5th, or the 9th grade when surely she was just a baby just yesterday.

WHEN YOUR BABY GOES BACK TO SCHOOL How to cope with all the bittersweet - the good, bad, and the ugly. From a Mom who's been there, already looking at eight school years in life's rearview mirror. Spoiler alert: perspective is everything!

Remember as a kid thinking how your parents seemed so old, when you tried to imagine what it must be like to reach the 30s or the 40s but you gave up because it just boggled your mind to think about?  And looking back now, you realize they were actually so young – you just didn’t realize it at the time?

An inescapable fact of life, our current perspective shapes both our memories of the past, our view of the present, and our imagining of the future.  Much like mountains appear bigger or smaller depending on our distance from them, so too do those moments that define our relationships.

My oldest child started 8th grade this past week and when I allow my mind to dwell on the shock of that fact long enough, it almost makes my brain hurt – just like when I tried to imagine my parents’ age as a child.

The irony is that with each new age and stage my oldest child reaches, it’s always hard to believe, when the new season first arrives. But time marches on, and eventually my youngest child reaches that same age and stage.  And only then do I look back and realize that that particular age really wasn’t so old after all.  I look at my oldest – always 2.5 years ahead of her younger sister, and again I think no, now this feels old.  How could she be old enough for 8th grade, I wonder?

My perspective is always a work in progress, just like yours.  I am learning that objects in life’s mirror are closer than they appear.  As fast as it sometimes feels my kids are growing up, they’re still right here beside me.  They’re still tucked safely in the nest here at home.

I’m learning to embrace the years I have left to teach them and watch them grow, while giving thanks for the years we’ve already weathered. Now if I could only learn to resist begging time to slow down!  😉

Whether it’s the night before kindergarten or the week before high school starts, hold your babies tight.  Trust that the weight of all your pouring into your little people is greater than the sum of it’s parts. Give them a blessing and send them on their way with a grateful heart.  Then come cry on my shoulder if you need to – you know where to find me  😉

“The Lord bless you
    and keep you;
the Lord make his face shine on you
    and be gracious to you;
the Lord turn his face toward you
    and give you peace.”’

Numbers 6:24-26

For more back to school fun, click over to read these 5 Ways to Prepare for a Smooth School Year Transition next  🙂

 

 

 

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  1. Deb Wolf wrote:

    Enjoy every amazing minute. Our oldest turns 40 next week. Yikes! That’s hard to say out loud! But oh, the blessing she is. Friend. Daughter. Mom. Beautiful inside and out. What a wonderful adventure we’ve enjoyed! 🙂

    Posted 8.17.15 Reply
    • Sybil Brun wrote:

      Love that Deb, thanks for sharing!

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  2. Hillary wrote:

    It is so quiet in my house right now; my littlest has gone off to kindergarten! Thank God, he still accepts my hugs and kisses, just as his siblings still do.

    I used to bless my children with that blessing every morning, and this year I have forgotten to do so after the Our Father on the drive to school. Thanks for the reminder.

    Posted 8.17.15 Reply
    • Sybil Brun wrote:

      How sweet, hope you all have a great year!

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  3. andi wrote:

    enjoy each moment while you have it

    Posted 8.17.15 Reply
  4. So true! While my baby is still just that, it’s crazy how my perspective has changed over the years. I already look at high school graduations and want to cry because he’s so close (even though I know how far away he is). I know my life is speeding by, but I just take the moment to cuddle him tightly and love him with all that I have! =)
    ~Heather aka HoJo~

    Posted 8.17.15 Reply
    • Sybil Brun wrote:

      I can so relate! Thanks for sharing Heather!

      Posted 8.18.15 Reply
  5. Aw!! This was just so beautiful Sybil!! I get it… oh do I get it!! I look at pics of my kids when they were so little- and now? Oh my heart. It’s astounding to me, that they are so grown up. I just can’t believe it, sometimes.

    I’m turning 48 next week, and ohmygosh that is OLD! But actually, I don’t *feel* old… I mean, I am not the *old* that my parents were when I was a kid, right?

    No, they were much younger, actually.

    Sigh…

    Posted 8.18.15 Reply
    • Sybil Brun wrote:

      You’re always so witty & wise Chris – thanks for being here and HAPPY BIRTHDAY! 🙂

      Posted 8.18.15 Reply